couples therapy

We offer couples therapy/couples counseling in New Jersey for partnered, married, or otherwise committed couples.

Intimate relationships can be one of the greatest gifts in life, but they also can present our greatest challenges. If you’re having problems in your relationship, or you simply feel like your relationship could be better, you’re not alone.

When is it time to try couples therapy? The best time is before major problems occur, even if things seem ‘pretty good.’ However, if you’re already in the midst of relationship problems, it’s never too late to get help. There’s no better time than now to learn how to live a more relationally skilled life using couples therapy. 

Many couples need help learning and implementing the tools and skills required in creating healthy relationships. Issues may range from a good relationship wishing to become even richer and more vital, to a relationship on the brink of disillusion – and everything in between. 

Honesty and an open heart are all that’s required. Our goal in couples therapy is to help you clear a path toward the type of relationship you seek.

During couples counseling sessions in our New Jersey or New York office, you will learn how to communicate, argue, negotiate, and treat each other with respect, as well as how to cherish and grow emotionally closer with each other in ways that honor your relationship and your values. 

Each part of the couple can learn to assert themselves lovingly and to open up and learn to be fully present. We will work together to heal and improve your relationship for deep, intimate connection. 

You will learn in couples counseling how to navigate your relationship in ways that are healing to both you and your partner or spouse. The tools you gain can be applied to other relationships, such as those between parent and child, those in the workplace, and those with extended family members.

Couples therapy teaches you ways to enhance your relationships, to keep those relationships on track, and to grow and thrive within them. 

Please feel free to set up a consultation to talk about how we might be able to help you, whether with in-person sessions in our New Jersey or New York office, or video sessions conducted via a secure, HIPAA-compliant platform.

Certified in the Development Model of Couples Therapy

The Developmental Model of couples therapy, developed by Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson, is an approach to couples counseling that focuses on the role of development in relationships. As the relationship progresses, partners change, however, they do not always change at the same time or in the same way. As a result of this, conflict may arise.

In the Developmental Model, the goal of therapy is to support the "differentiation" of each partner and to strengthen each partner’s capacity to negotiate differences. Learning to tolerate your differences, grow skills that are weak or missing, and knowing your thoughts, needs, and desires, are some of the tools in the developmental model.

These skills enable each partner to communicate clearly, with increased self-awareness, and with curiosity for self and partner. This process leads to the ability to develop empathy, intimacy, and connection in the relationship.